couple playing piano“You don’t always have to chop with the sword of truth. You can point with it too.”
–Anne Lamott (The Musician’s Way, p. 299)

Although criticism is essential to all sorts of collaboration, poorly handled critiques can undermine our ability to work together.

What if we could manage criticism in ways that enhance collective creativity?

In my post “Benefiting from Criticism,” I explore the receiving side of critiques. Here, I look at tactics to use when we’re the ones offering feedback.

Common Pitfalls
In an article on the Harvard Business Review Blog, Tony Schwartz points to three mistakes we often make when giving criticism:

  • Critiquing when we feel that our own value is at stake – then, the criticism is really about us.
  • Not supporting the value of the people we critique, which provokes defensiveness.
  • Assuming that our views are correct; i.e., not acknowledging the possibility of alternate viewpoints.

Criticism as Collaboration

Here are five ways that we can deal productively with critiques and avoid common pitfalls.

1. Focus on issues, not people
When we frame our opinions in relation to issues, they’re easier for others to appraise objectively. For instance, if we’re rehearsing with a quartet and we feel that one performer’s timing is off, we might ask the group, “Are we coming in together on that chord?” Then, the sound of the chord becomes the issue, and we don’t point any fingers.

2. Question in conditional, positive ways
Continuing with that quartet scenario, if the problem persists, we might ask, “Is it possible that I’m coming in early or that the flute is a bit late?” Similarly, if we have interpretive ideas that we’d like to share, instead of asserting in absolutes (e.g., “It would sound better louder”), questioning stimulates curiosity: “How would it sound if we played that passage forte?”

3. Craft “I” statements
When we want to volunteer our opinions, “I” statements can work like magic. Suppose that a normally responsible ensemble member arrives late for a couple of rehearsals: As opposed to hurling an accusation (“You’re being unprofessional!”), we might say, “I feel frustrated when we can’t begin on time.” Of course, if such tardiness persists, then the member’s commitment to the group would need discussing.

4. Listen actively
Tactics such as paraphrasing what we hear and showing enthusiasm for differing views helps those we work with know that we’re hearing their responses.

5. Build consensus
In collaborative situations, the purpose of criticism should be to achieve agreed-upon goals. With an issue-based approach to our work and communication skills in hand, critiques become like neutral information that we and our colleagues can experiment with. In that way, we build consensus and collectively decide on courses of action. Whether the issues surround interpretation, concert programming, marketing, or whatever, we’re able to learn from each others’ differences and move forward.

More tips for collaborative creativity can be found in Chapter 6 of The Musician’s Way.

Related posts
Benefiting from Criticism
The Growth Mindset
How Not To Be Creative
Ten Tips for Collaborating Musicians
Toward Better Collaboration

© 2011 Gerald Klickstein
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